Okay, it’s done. The State has ripped your children off from having a meaningful relationship with two loving parents, they opted for the Federal Title IV-D funding instead. It’s no secret, the Commissioners and Judges of this State just stink – they want cases out of their courtroom, and they want the kids given to one parent so there is a hefty flow of money to the States Coffers to suppor Christine’s continued spending spree. IT is what it is. SO lets make the best of it.
It’s Christmas, and you are probably struggling to get gifts for the kids, and food on the table, and pay the rent, along with the other financial responsibilities that come with being the family wallet to an ex.
How about the start of some traditions in your family – ones that will shape the children for years to come – here are a few examples, and I do hope if you are reading this that you pay it forward with just one idea to help another non-custodial parent make Christmas special for him/her and the children.
- Have a special Christmas book you read on Christmas eve each year
- Have a special Dinner you fix together – something the kids can help with
- Have a special Breakfast for Christmas Morning – something fast to make, as nobody has interest in working the kitchen while the kids have all this excitement.
- Go to Bellevue’s Snowflake Parade – It’s free, parking is free. The kids get free suckers, and the characters in costume are excellent along with the Christmas music.
- Go Caroling around the neighborhood – bundle up, take some flashlights, and ask neighbors to join in – make it improptu. Doorbell ditch the neighbors to the curb and start singing.
- Pick up a small item at Michaels or some other hobby store to paint with the kids – they will have a gift to give away when it is done.
- Make Christmas Cookies and Candies with the kids – let the kids paint the frosting on.
- Make some Christmas Ornaments / Decorations with the kids – that you can have for a lifetime.
Small memorable things will make Christmas Christmas at your home. Hot chocolate with Marshmallows, I remember that from Childhood. Think about what you remember from Christmas, and create some of those simple memories for your kids – the gifts being torn open will be forgotten by January 1st, but the Hot Chocale with Mom/Dad, cuddled up on the couch watching a special Christmas movie or reading a special book will last a lifetime!
Mickey Mouse Pancakes, those are special.
Corn bread casserole you can make with the kids – can of corn, can of creamed corn, package of cream cheese, two jiffy cake mixes, splash of cooking oil. Mix it all together and bake per cake mix instructions. Kids will love it!
Got ideas to share – please do!