Domestic Violence is the wild card in child custody in Washington State. Lieyers in Washington State routinely tell their customers to file for DV restraining orders if they have been yelled at, cursed at, threatened, slapped, etc. Yes, Domestic Violence is an issue in the US, it is intolerable, just as much as False Allegations of DV are intolerable.
But get this, in most divorces in our State, one parent is removed from the life of a child, due to many reasons. Is your former spouse intentionally damaging the relationship with your child? If they are, they are committing Domestic Violence. We aren’t making this up, its a fact spelled out by the Unites State Justice Deparment’s own office of Violence Against Women. Now I won’t start in on how the name of that agency in and of itself is bias, and probably violates the Civil Rights of men everywhere, but think about it. This agency, which is responsible for prosecuting Domestic Violence, and ensuring the State pass laws to protect victims of Domestic Violence, state on their page that “damaging one’s relationship with his or her children” is DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.
So, if false accusers of Domestic Violence do it to destroy the relationship between a parent and a child, are they not committing Domestic Violence? Where are the victims advocates that should be screeming about the mom that moves her children out of State just to keep them from the other parent. Where are the victims advocates that should be screaming when a father is not allowing a non-custodial mom to see her kids during her sactioned parenting time?
Where are the policies in the Counties of King, Snohomish, Pierce, Thurston and the rest to protect non-custodial parents, and more importantly the Children who are the ultimate victims? They are lost, lost to a State of Washington that has a goal of collecting Title IV-D revenues for child Support Collection, for collecting Violence Against Women’s funding with the false impression they can only get it by defending women, and lost to a beaurocracy that is biased and ignorant.
Please Washington State – start protecting your Children, and not your revenue. Something tells me raising well adjusted kids in our State will bring in more Tax dollars than what you receive from sucking from the Title IV Teit.
Here is the content from DOJ -
Emotional Abuse: Undermining an individual’s sense of self-worth and/or self-esteem is abusive. This may include, but is not limited to constant criticism, diminishing one’s abilities, name-calling, or damaging one’s relationship with his or her children.