Washington Shared Parenting

Let’s face it, non-custodial parents complain bitterly that they don’t get enough time with their children.   We can’t rely on the legislature to fix it anytime soon – not if you look at the changes Senator Kastama requested for the past 14 years – and was denied by Senator Hargrove repeatedly – let’s not forget Senator McAuliffe for her efforts to keep changes from happening either.

And, when the limited time is provided in a parenting plan, there is absolutely no way to ensure you get that time, as our own Court’s won’t uphold the visitation because they refuse to find any custodial parent in contempt of the parenting plan.

In Illinois, they just passed a law that goes after deadbeat custodial parents that refuse to allow parenting time to the non-custodial parents.  SB 3823 brings remedies and sanctions for visitation interference closer to that of child support non-compliance, as it should be. It provides judges additional tools that they may choose to use, including:

• Allowing for the suspension of driver’s license
• Allowing for probation
• Allowing for imprisonment not to exceed 6 months
• Allowing for the finding of a petty offence and fines of no more than $500 per offense

Wow, any chance Hargrove and his misfits will find the guts to buck the women’s groups and courts that they cow-tow to and pass a law that protects what little non-custodians get now?  Ya’ think they can use Illinois to as a model to finally do something to protect children?

I won’t hold my breathe, but it sure looks appealing, and seems to be the right thing to do for children.   And, it would allow for more acrimony in the divorce, so we should get the support of the Bar Association on this one – increased revenue for attorney’s – that has to be good for their business.

We were reminded of this video that was taken at the Snohomish County Courthouse a few years back.  While CRISPE bus was at the Courthouse and a small protest was going on outside, this woman walks up and asks to be interviewed about how the Courts and her Mother turned her against her father, and how she heard false allegation against her father, who she reminded herself years later, was a loving father.

There is no question this goes on in the Courts, and if you follow the money, you will see that the Courts are a money machine, working to improve their funding from Washington’s Division of Child Support’s Federal Title IVD fund, giving out restraining orders like Candy so they receive VAWA funding from the Fed, all the while ignoring the damaging affect, and the associated cost to our Children of Washington.

It’s dispicable that the Courts operate this way, and just as bad that our legislature allows it.  Of Course, they are best friends with the Superior Court Judges Association, and work with them to create jobs in the Courts, increase their salaries, and especially improve their retirement system.  How long will this sham go on before Senators like Hargrove and Rosemary McAuliffe wake up and start protecting those that need protection, the most vulnerable – our children?

Check out the video – it is a wakeup call to the Legislature and our Courts – who apparently are deaf!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5DmVVXbJDL8&feature=youtu.be

Minnesota Governor Mark Dayton has vetoed a bill passed by the Minnesota Legislature that would have guaranteed non-custodial Parents (the majority are dads) at least 35% parenting time with their Children.  What is incredible is that this passed the legislature in Minnesota, which recognizes the importance of both parents being involved in the lives of their children.  Look at Washington States own irresponsible Legislature, that forbids it from even being brought to the floor for consideration!

The Good news is that the Governor, who is a divorced non-custodial Parent, has committed to putting together a group to look at meaningful reform for Minnesota to help fathers and children.

The question for the State of Washington Legislature is this – just how deep is that sand that your head is buried in?  Can you possibly pull it out, or should men just figure that they must always pull out.

I’ve been reading about the bypartisan support for SB6511, the so called Sky Metalwala Bill.  You may recall, Sky Metalwala allegedly disappeard while left in his mothers car when she allegedly ran out of gas.  it’s been over two months since he was seen (at least by civilized people) and the Bellevue Police Department has done little to change the case.  The mother refuses to speak to the police, the Police have no probably cause apparently haul her butt down for questioning.

The other story around this is that the Bias that runs rampant in our State’s Courts over child custody for Fathers, and the Domestic Violence Restraining orders given out like after Dinner Mints has been documented in several hard hitting news articles.  It’s about time, as it has been needed for years.

Well, as like any time you shine the light on issues in Government, the Cochroaches are strambling for cover.  This time its the Washington State Democratically controlled Legislature that is trying to scrape the egg off of their face, and have introduced legislation being called the Sky Metalwala Legislative Bill – SB6511.   This is a good bill when initially read – it requires anyone providing testimony in a Family Court or DV hearing to be under oath.  Yea, Yea, I know, it’s hard to believe the courts are going to actually make people testify honestly in their halls of minimal-justice.  It also requires the Judge to nofity all parties of any information they have read from databases, etc. at the disposal of the courts.

It’s odd, the courts are not allowed to do investigative work on their own, yet they are forcing the courts to state what they have learned from their investigative work.  I think this comes about because former DV Prosecutor Jeske, now out of control Commissioner Jeske of King County Courts regularly brags about what she knows about people because she has been busy reading all of the back chatter in the criminal databases, etc.

But, the real Cockroaches here are the Members of the Legislatures Human Services and Corrections Committee’s in Olympia, who have done sweet fug all to protect the citizens of this state.  For example, Senator Hargrove has been so careful not to upset the Judges, or the Women’s rights advocates, or the DV advocates, or the Title IV-D revenue of Mr. Stillman’s DCS by carefully only making minimal changes to laws that are entirely flawed, he has not accomplished anything to the betterment of Children and families in Washington, and has only served to destroy the work of many for the decades prior to his introduction to this disengenuous Committee.  This bill is a knee jerk reaction I’m sure to pacify citizens that are angered by the Sky Metalwala Case, to show the Judges that he and his committee are the boss when it comes to the Courts, to demonstrate to the DV Queen’s they cant embarass his committee any further, and maybe, just maybe actually protect the Citizens of Washington State.

Then we have Jamie Petersen, or something like that, running the Judiciary in the State House of Representative.  Running his sham to force his gay agenda down the legislature, he is void of any sensible logic when it comes to issues of DV, Parenting time, or anything family related.  The nodoze his committee is on only continues to make terrible situations for loving families worse.

It’s unfortunate this is being called the Sky Metalwala Legislative bill, really, it should be the Legislative Committee Wakeup Bill.

We need a change in the management of our Legislature.  If for no other reason, thant to minimize the members of these Committee’s so we can begin to depend on GREAT Judicial decisions in our State once more, rather than tolerate Courts that are out of control, selfish to their own self-interests, and lacking the common decency and moral terpitude to protect Children in Washington State.

Please, write or call your members of the State Legislature, requesting they put their 100% suppport behind the Sky Metalwala Legislative Bill SB6511 and any others that start to put fairness and ethical decision making in Washington State Courts.

And lets pray for a wholesale changeout of leadership on these two vital committee’s in Olympia.

That’s right, it takes a curagious soul to write the article Ripped Apart that highlights the abuse of fathers at the hands of King County Judges and Commissioners.  Chalk full of facts and names like Sassaman, Doerty, Jeske, Bartholomew, the article demonstrates the vicious behavior the courts inflict on loving dad.

These articles of a series need to be read by all!   It is thrilling to see that after all of these years, the media is finally reporting accurately what happens in our mess we call family courts.

Non-custodial moms and dads – you need to read these articles, leave comment, and facts to show the WORLD what has been going on to destroy the lives of innocent parents and their children.

While your at it, check these out as well, they are all related

Family Court: Dads Regularly Lose Access to Kids, Sparking Claims of Anti-Male Bias

Sky Metalwala’s Dad Is Victim of Family Court Bias, Activists Say

Well, if you are a non-custodial parent, and you are with your kids, it’s one more day of quality time due to no snow, and no work.  All you can do is sit at home, read, play games, spend some quality time together.

Relish in the idea that the Courts are closed today, and this is one weekday that non-custodial parents are not being slaughtered by the likes of Sassaman, Bedle, Waggoner, Canada-Thurston, and the rest of the Commissioners and Judges that are hell bent on destroying the lives of young children that deserve both children in their lives, the the prersonal profit of members of the Lieyers Union, Guardian Ad-litems, etc.

If you aren’t with your kids today, and you can’t get to work – dedicate the day to helping yourselves and others such as -

• Write a letter to your State representatives in Olympia asking for their support with shared parenting laws
• Write a an email to your case worker at DCS and get a copy of your case notes
• If you have lost contact with your kids – go to www.USSharedParenting.com and post a note to them on Family Finder – it works – 4 parents have been reconnected with lost kids.
• Leave a Comment on this blog, or other news stories that affect families, and point out some facts that will help a non-custodial parent.
• Write a note to your child – remind them that Daddy/Mommy loves them.

This message is short, but spot on target.  The message is clear, it gets the point across, and demonstrates exactly what is wrong today.

Watch the video click here – Second Class Citizen

Okay, it’s done.  The State has ripped your children off from having a meaningful relationship with two loving parents, they opted for the Federal Title IV-D funding instead.  It’s no secret, the Commissioners and Judges of this State just stink – they want cases out of their courtroom, and they want the kids given to one parent so there is a hefty flow of money to the States Coffers to suppor Christine’s continued spending spree.   IT is what it is.  SO lets make the best of it.

It’s Christmas, and you are probably struggling to get gifts for the kids, and food on the table, and pay the rent, along with the other financial responsibilities that come with being the family wallet to an ex.

How about the start of some traditions in your family – ones that will shape the children for years to come – here are a few examples, and I do hope if you are reading this that you pay it forward with just one idea to help another non-custodial parent make Christmas special for him/her and the children.

• Have a special Christmas book you read on Christmas eve each year
• Have a special Dinner you fix together – something the kids can help with
• Have a special Breakfast for Christmas Morning – something fast to make, as nobody has interest in working the kitchen while the kids have all this excitement.
• Go to Bellevue’s Snowflake Parade – It’s free, parking is free.  The kids get free suckers, and the characters in costume are excellent along with the Christmas music.
• Go Caroling around the neighborhood – bundle up, take some flashlights, and ask neighbors to join in – make it improptu.   Doorbell ditch the neighbors to the curb and start singing.
• Pick up a small item at Michaels or some other hobby store to paint with the kids – they will have a gift to give away when it is done.
• Make Christmas Cookies and Candies with the kids – let the kids paint the frosting on.
• Make some Christmas Ornaments / Decorations with the kids – that you can have for a lifetime.

Small memorable things will make Christmas Christmas at your home.  Hot chocolate with Marshmallows, I remember that from Childhood.   Think about what you remember from Christmas, and create some of those simple memories for your kids – the gifts being torn open will be forgotten by January 1st, but the Hot Chocale with Mom/Dad, cuddled up on the couch watching a special Christmas movie or reading a special book will last a lifetime!

Mickey Mouse Pancakes, those are special.

Corn bread casserole you can make with the kids – can of corn, can of creamed corn, package of cream cheese, two jiffy cake mixes, splash of cooking oil.  Mix it all together and bake per cake mix instructions.  Kids will love it!

Got ideas to share – please do!

What a trade – lose a child in order to get custody back of another.  That is just what happened to Soloman Metawala.  Much of this stems from another biased ruling by King County Commissioner Jeske.  A former DV prosecutor, Jeske is know for being tough on dads with regards to DV, and lax on moms.   In this case, she gave the mother, who was diagnosed as having some severe mental health issues, custody of the children, after the Father initially asked the Court to protect him and the children from the mom.

Of course this is not surprising, this embarassment to the Courts is well know for her bias against Fathers.   She is also known for directing business to her favorite DV service providers.  Go to WADVPress.org for more stories on this King County Famous Commissioner, where even the attorney’s don’t want to be in court against her.

Soloman Metawala has paid a price, his children have paid a heavier price, and Jeske remain unscathed in the Courtroom.   Yep, its time for an investigation into Bias in her courtroom.  It’s time for the Judges to do their jobs – supervise these unelected, untalented quasi-judges that make a mockery of Family court.

Let’s hope its not too late for young Sky Metawala.  Today, Soloman Metawala was re-united with his daughter, lets hope he re-unites with is son in short order.

Several years ago, we noticed a lot of visitors to this site were looking for email addresses for DSHS employees.  It seemed odd, the largest agency in Washington, and 100% public facing to provide services to the citizens could not be found to communicate with via email.  WE scoured Washington’s online information, and determined they just weren’t there.   Who Knew?

Washington State DIS has an online database of State Employees, that included everyone – email, phone number, etc.  Oh, but there is a caviate.  The Agency itself can opt out of being in that database!  Apparently DSHS had opted out.

Okay, this is getting long, why am I still reading this….. hold on for just a moment, I’m almost there.

WashingtonSharedparenting.com and the Washington Civil Rights Commission joined forced and did a Washington State Public Records Request for all of the emails for DSHS.  Yep, all 20,000 plus address.  First, I was amazed that they have that many employee – seems a bit bloated if you ask me!  We got the addresses, we created a website with an extensive database backend, and we posted those addresses.   We believe it is a great service to the citizens of Washington State – and about 80 visitors a day agree – they come directly to our site to find email addresses.   And, you will not believe how many come from Washington State DSHS and other agencies.   Apparently, DSHS missed the boat with this policy.

So, why doesn’t this large agency not want the public to be able to contact them via email?  I had the chance to ask one of their employees just today.   A Jared Sagmiller, a DSHS employee, called us from 3604961078 and took the time to politely spell his name for us, informed us that we had his work email address on our website, and then demanded that we remove it!  Remove it?   Why would we remove that address, after DSHS informed all employees they had 30 days to get a restraining order to keep their work email address from being put onto the list, if they had legitimate legal reseason.   And Jared – you aren’t the first one to request this.   We had one rude woman who was a nurse at a Mental Hospital in Spokane claiming that the publishing of her business email address put her family at rist!  AT Risk – your family?  Because someone has your work email address?  Explain that one to me?

Here is the bottom line.  Employees of Washington State are hired to serve the public.    Let me say it again – SERVE THE PUBLIC.   When you can’t be contacted, because you don’t want your email address given out, you fail TO SERVE THE PUBLIC.   Lets see, 80 people a day, 2400 people a month, or 27,000 people a day are trying to get ahold of DSHS via email – and rely on a Shared Parenting Website to get the email address to reach them.  Shameful, isn’t it?

So, what are these addresses good for?  Well, when you have questions for your State Employee, and you need to ask them during the day, when they don’t answer their phones, just go to http://dshs.washingtonsharedparenting.com and look them up by name.   If you find we don’t have someone, let us know – we’ll contact DSHS and get it and add it to the list.   If you have someones phone number – send it to info@washingtonsharedparenting.comand we will be sure to add it to the list as well.  After all, someone has to hold this large agency accountable for communicating with the lowly public.   We are happy to step up to the plate and do it for you.

PS – Jaret – do you still use Windows NT?