Washington Shared Parenting

I’ve been reading about the bypartisan support for SB6511, the so called Sky Metalwala Bill.  You may recall, Sky Metalwala allegedly disappeard while left in his mothers car when she allegedly ran out of gas.  it’s been over two months since he was seen (at least by civilized people) and the Bellevue Police Department has done little to change the case.  The mother refuses to speak to the police, the Police have no probably cause apparently haul her butt down for questioning.

The other story around this is that the Bias that runs rampant in our State’s Courts over child custody for Fathers, and the Domestic Violence Restraining orders given out like after Dinner Mints has been documented in several hard hitting news articles.  It’s about time, as it has been needed for years.

Well, as like any time you shine the light on issues in Government, the Cochroaches are strambling for cover.  This time its the Washington State Democratically controlled Legislature that is trying to scrape the egg off of their face, and have introduced legislation being called the Sky Metalwala Legislative Bill – SB6511.   This is a good bill when initially read – it requires anyone providing testimony in a Family Court or DV hearing to be under oath.  Yea, Yea, I know, it’s hard to believe the courts are going to actually make people testify honestly in their halls of minimal-justice.  It also requires the Judge to nofity all parties of any information they have read from databases, etc. at the disposal of the courts.

It’s odd, the courts are not allowed to do investigative work on their own, yet they are forcing the courts to state what they have learned from their investigative work.  I think this comes about because former DV Prosecutor Jeske, now out of control Commissioner Jeske of King County Courts regularly brags about what she knows about people because she has been busy reading all of the back chatter in the criminal databases, etc.

But, the real Cockroaches here are the Members of the Legislatures Human Services and Corrections Committee’s in Olympia, who have done sweet fug all to protect the citizens of this state.  For example, Senator Hargrove has been so careful not to upset the Judges, or the Women’s rights advocates, or the DV advocates, or the Title IV-D revenue of Mr. Stillman’s DCS by carefully only making minimal changes to laws that are entirely flawed, he has not accomplished anything to the betterment of Children and families in Washington, and has only served to destroy the work of many for the decades prior to his introduction to this disengenuous Committee.  This bill is a knee jerk reaction I’m sure to pacify citizens that are angered by the Sky Metalwala Case, to show the Judges that he and his committee are the boss when it comes to the Courts, to demonstrate to the DV Queen’s they cant embarass his committee any further, and maybe, just maybe actually protect the Citizens of Washington State.

Then we have Jamie Petersen, or something like that, running the Judiciary in the State House of Representative.  Running his sham to force his gay agenda down the legislature, he is void of any sensible logic when it comes to issues of DV, Parenting time, or anything family related.  The nodoze his committee is on only continues to make terrible situations for loving families worse.

It’s unfortunate this is being called the Sky Metalwala Legislative bill, really, it should be the Legislative Committee Wakeup Bill.

We need a change in the management of our Legislature.  If for no other reason, thant to minimize the members of these Committee’s so we can begin to depend on GREAT Judicial decisions in our State once more, rather than tolerate Courts that are out of control, selfish to their own self-interests, and lacking the common decency and moral terpitude to protect Children in Washington State.

Please, write or call your members of the State Legislature, requesting they put their 100% suppport behind the Sky Metalwala Legislative Bill SB6511 and any others that start to put fairness and ethical decision making in Washington State Courts.

And lets pray for a wholesale changeout of leadership on these two vital committee’s in Olympia.

That’s right, it takes a curagious soul to write the article Ripped Apart that highlights the abuse of fathers at the hands of King County Judges and Commissioners.  Chalk full of facts and names like Sassaman, Doerty, Jeske, Bartholomew, the article demonstrates the vicious behavior the courts inflict on loving dad.

These articles of a series need to be read by all!   It is thrilling to see that after all of these years, the media is finally reporting accurately what happens in our mess we call family courts.

Non-custodial moms and dads – you need to read these articles, leave comment, and facts to show the WORLD what has been going on to destroy the lives of innocent parents and their children.

While your at it, check these out as well, they are all related

Family Court: Dads Regularly Lose Access to Kids, Sparking Claims of Anti-Male Bias

Sky Metalwala’s Dad Is Victim of Family Court Bias, Activists Say

Well, if you are a non-custodial parent, and you are with your kids, it’s one more day of quality time due to no snow, and no work.  All you can do is sit at home, read, play games, spend some quality time together.

Relish in the idea that the Courts are closed today, and this is one weekday that non-custodial parents are not being slaughtered by the likes of Sassaman, Bedle, Waggoner, Canada-Thurston, and the rest of the Commissioners and Judges that are hell bent on destroying the lives of young children that deserve both children in their lives, the the prersonal profit of members of the Lieyers Union, Guardian Ad-litems, etc.

If you aren’t with your kids today, and you can’t get to work – dedicate the day to helping yourselves and others such as -

• Write a letter to your State representatives in Olympia asking for their support with shared parenting laws
• Write a an email to your case worker at DCS and get a copy of your case notes
• If you have lost contact with your kids – go to www.USSharedParenting.com and post a note to them on Family Finder – it works – 4 parents have been reconnected with lost kids.
• Leave a Comment on this blog, or other news stories that affect families, and point out some facts that will help a non-custodial parent.
• Write a note to your child – remind them that Daddy/Mommy loves them.

This message is short, but spot on target.  The message is clear, it gets the point across, and demonstrates exactly what is wrong today.

Watch the video click here – Second Class Citizen

Okay, it’s done.  The State has ripped your children off from having a meaningful relationship with two loving parents, they opted for the Federal Title IV-D funding instead.  It’s no secret, the Commissioners and Judges of this State just stink – they want cases out of their courtroom, and they want the kids given to one parent so there is a hefty flow of money to the States Coffers to suppor Christine’s continued spending spree.   IT is what it is.  SO lets make the best of it.

It’s Christmas, and you are probably struggling to get gifts for the kids, and food on the table, and pay the rent, along with the other financial responsibilities that come with being the family wallet to an ex.

How about the start of some traditions in your family – ones that will shape the children for years to come – here are a few examples, and I do hope if you are reading this that you pay it forward with just one idea to help another non-custodial parent make Christmas special for him/her and the children.

• Have a special Christmas book you read on Christmas eve each year
• Have a special Dinner you fix together – something the kids can help with
• Have a special Breakfast for Christmas Morning – something fast to make, as nobody has interest in working the kitchen while the kids have all this excitement.
• Go to Bellevue’s Snowflake Parade – It’s free, parking is free.  The kids get free suckers, and the characters in costume are excellent along with the Christmas music.
• Go Caroling around the neighborhood – bundle up, take some flashlights, and ask neighbors to join in – make it improptu.   Doorbell ditch the neighbors to the curb and start singing.
• Pick up a small item at Michaels or some other hobby store to paint with the kids – they will have a gift to give away when it is done.
• Make Christmas Cookies and Candies with the kids – let the kids paint the frosting on.
• Make some Christmas Ornaments / Decorations with the kids – that you can have for a lifetime.

Small memorable things will make Christmas Christmas at your home.  Hot chocolate with Marshmallows, I remember that from Childhood.   Think about what you remember from Christmas, and create some of those simple memories for your kids – the gifts being torn open will be forgotten by January 1st, but the Hot Chocale with Mom/Dad, cuddled up on the couch watching a special Christmas movie or reading a special book will last a lifetime!

Mickey Mouse Pancakes, those are special.

Corn bread casserole you can make with the kids – can of corn, can of creamed corn, package of cream cheese, two jiffy cake mixes, splash of cooking oil.  Mix it all together and bake per cake mix instructions.  Kids will love it!

Got ideas to share – please do!

What a trade – lose a child in order to get custody back of another.  That is just what happened to Soloman Metawala.  Much of this stems from another biased ruling by King County Commissioner Jeske.  A former DV prosecutor, Jeske is know for being tough on dads with regards to DV, and lax on moms.   In this case, she gave the mother, who was diagnosed as having some severe mental health issues, custody of the children, after the Father initially asked the Court to protect him and the children from the mom.

Of course this is not surprising, this embarassment to the Courts is well know for her bias against Fathers.   She is also known for directing business to her favorite DV service providers.  Go to WADVPress.org for more stories on this King County Famous Commissioner, where even the attorney’s don’t want to be in court against her.

Soloman Metawala has paid a price, his children have paid a heavier price, and Jeske remain unscathed in the Courtroom.   Yep, its time for an investigation into Bias in her courtroom.  It’s time for the Judges to do their jobs – supervise these unelected, untalented quasi-judges that make a mockery of Family court.

Let’s hope its not too late for young Sky Metawala.  Today, Soloman Metawala was re-united with his daughter, lets hope he re-unites with is son in short order.

Several years ago, we noticed a lot of visitors to this site were looking for email addresses for DSHS employees.  It seemed odd, the largest agency in Washington, and 100% public facing to provide services to the citizens could not be found to communicate with via email.  WE scoured Washington’s online information, and determined they just weren’t there.   Who Knew?

Washington State DIS has an online database of State Employees, that included everyone – email, phone number, etc.  Oh, but there is a caviate.  The Agency itself can opt out of being in that database!  Apparently DSHS had opted out.

Okay, this is getting long, why am I still reading this….. hold on for just a moment, I’m almost there.

WashingtonSharedparenting.com and the Washington Civil Rights Commission joined forced and did a Washington State Public Records Request for all of the emails for DSHS.  Yep, all 20,000 plus address.  First, I was amazed that they have that many employee – seems a bit bloated if you ask me!  We got the addresses, we created a website with an extensive database backend, and we posted those addresses.   We believe it is a great service to the citizens of Washington State – and about 80 visitors a day agree – they come directly to our site to find email addresses.   And, you will not believe how many come from Washington State DSHS and other agencies.   Apparently, DSHS missed the boat with this policy.

So, why doesn’t this large agency not want the public to be able to contact them via email?  I had the chance to ask one of their employees just today.   A Jared Sagmiller, a DSHS employee, called us from 3604961078 and took the time to politely spell his name for us, informed us that we had his work email address on our website, and then demanded that we remove it!  Remove it?   Why would we remove that address, after DSHS informed all employees they had 30 days to get a restraining order to keep their work email address from being put onto the list, if they had legitimate legal reseason.   And Jared – you aren’t the first one to request this.   We had one rude woman who was a nurse at a Mental Hospital in Spokane claiming that the publishing of her business email address put her family at rist!  AT Risk – your family?  Because someone has your work email address?  Explain that one to me?

Here is the bottom line.  Employees of Washington State are hired to serve the public.    Let me say it again – SERVE THE PUBLIC.   When you can’t be contacted, because you don’t want your email address given out, you fail TO SERVE THE PUBLIC.   Lets see, 80 people a day, 2400 people a month, or 27,000 people a day are trying to get ahold of DSHS via email – and rely on a Shared Parenting Website to get the email address to reach them.  Shameful, isn’t it?

So, what are these addresses good for?  Well, when you have questions for your State Employee, and you need to ask them during the day, when they don’t answer their phones, just go to http://dshs.washingtonsharedparenting.com and look them up by name.   If you find we don’t have someone, let us know – we’ll contact DSHS and get it and add it to the list.   If you have someones phone number – send it to info@washingtonsharedparenting.comand we will be sure to add it to the list as well.  After all, someone has to hold this large agency accountable for communicating with the lowly public.   We are happy to step up to the plate and do it for you.

PS – Jaret – do you still use Windows NT?

Let’s face it, DCS has a job to do, collect as much money to earn as much revenue for Washington State as it possibly can, regardless of the outcome of children.  THey are a credit collection agency, make no doubts about it.

It works this way, they collect the money, and the higher percentage, read again – the higher percentage of collections they do, the more Federal Title IV-D funds they get.   Percentage.  If they collect from 5 guys paying $1,000 a month, or they collect from 5 guys paying $50 a month, they get the same incentives because it is based on Percentages.

This process should help you understand something – if your former spouse isn’t paying their $50 a month, and never had, don’t expect a lot of resources to be applied to getting that money, as the odds are it will cost them a lot of money.  Now, if they have always paid, and aren’t because they lost their job, well now, this is different, we can collect from this guy – so we will put a lot of resources on him to get money, as he is not huring our percentage.

But, we have digressed a bit.  Here is the real question – are they legally allowed to do what they are doing?  Or, are they doing what they think they need to do to collect from you, and ignoring what is lawful.  THere are ways to check – at http://WashingtonSharedParenting.com/web we have the entire Division of Child Support manual available online for you.   It should be your bible for comparing what is being done or not done, and is legally available to the staff of DCS for collections.

For example, The Washington State Court of Appeals has ruled that Administrative Subpoena’s authored by an Agency that is requestiong PERSONAL information, must have a Judges Signature on it.   Odd, DCS used to send Administrative Subpoena’s to Agencies like the Snohomish County PUD, who would blindly respond to them, unlawfully.  They didn’t know better because their legal advice was sub-par.   This of course is just an example.

Here is what we recommend – use the Public Records Act and write an email to your SEO and ask for a copy of your case comments.   Their email is on our email list at http://dshs.washingtonsharedparenting.com

YOu don’t need to ask for much – something like this – Please give me a copy of my case notes, following Washington’s Public Records Act.  You should have them in 5 days, or at least a response saying when you will get them.  If not, comment on here, we can help you get them, and maybe earn some money from them in damages too.

Next, read the notes to see what DCS has been up to.  Read the Policy Manual to see if they are legally authorized to do so.  If they aren’t, email the SEO and ask them for a copy of the authority they relied upon to do what they did, ask them to state where it is in their policy Manual.  Verify the manual says that, and confirm it word for Word.  Employees like Pete Turner at DCS have a habit of editing the paragraphs to meet their personal needs (commonly called lying, or deceiving people).

Write a letter to David Stillman if you find they are not following the Policy Manual, demand they start following it, and correct anything adverse that has happended to you.

The story about the loss of one Sky Metawala has turned the Washington DV industry upside down.  Not because they have come out and told us the mother suffered from abuse, not because they came out and said the Father beat the child, not because the father was restrained from seeing his children because of her allegations of abuse.  Or any of the other myths they use to defend false accusing, Domestic Violence Perps they defend.  But because new voices are being heard about the very issues within the DV industry in this State.

It’s worse.  The mother had such a low score on a psych evaluation that she was thought to be suicidal, or worse, to bring harm to her children or others.  And, with that on her back, the children were removed from the father, and given to the mother.  Thank you Judges and Commissioners of King County – another fine job of butchering a loving father who should have been given the opportunity to protect his son.

A tragedy out of King County Courts AGAIN!  A black eye to the DV industry as a whole, and those that make a living out of it.  Why, because it’s their very actions, their support of false accusers, rather than prosecuting this Violators that sets up these tragic incidents.

However, FM87.3 highlighted the issues on their program today, and had interviews with two members of the Washington DV Commission.   Yep, these new spokesmen for the DV industry take a different view of things – they want to expose the false allegations that King County has NEVER prosecuted.  They want to address the same DV Perpetrator Trainers that the Commissioners of King County insist on sending the falsely accused to, and ignore the rest of the firms that provide the same service (can you say follow the money?).  They want to bring this DV industry under control, so that tax dollars are used to actually help families, rather than destroy them.

David Martin, King County Prosecutor, maybe you can leave a comment and tell us how many false accusers you have prosecuted.  Wait, don’t waste your time, we already know, you told us – ZERO.   6,000 DV restraining orders give out like Candy each year in King County, and not ONE SINGLE FALSE ALLEGATION?  HA!  Are you kidding me, on average, 25 are given out each day, and none are false allegations?  None?  ZIP?  How can that possibly be?

It wasn’t long ago that a local psychologist killed himself after getting caught video taping coworkers and clients in the women’s bathroom.  He was a part of the King County band of brothers, having been married to one of the Judges, and being one of the sole recipients of the courts referrals for work.  He demonstrated just how bad our courts are.

With what is coming out these days, it really is time for the Feds to step in and start investigating King County Courts for not only their failures, but their bias, steering of work to friends, and their complete lapse of professional conduct.  King County is not alone, in fact, Thurston County is probably the worse, and deserves an investigation of their own.   But please, start it now, before we are searching for more young children damaged at the hands of their own sick parents, and lousy biased decisions of Washington’s Non-Superior Courts.

RateTheCourts.com is a site where you can go to rate a judge or commissioner you have had in a recent case.  The site compiles statistics for rated Judges, and provides a list of the worse Judges/Commissioners from what People have voted.   Interesting to note that most on the list are Commissioners, not judges.   Of course a civics lesson tells us that Commissioners are not elected, and are chosen to serve at the wim of the Judges.  Of course that same civic lesson would have to tell you that Commissioners serve for life usually, and are the meanest, nastiest people on the bench – because they are accountable to nobody, and the Judges like having someone else do the dirty work in Family Court, etc.

If you look at the data, it is interesting that some have many more negative comments than the rest.  For instance, the worse on the list is Commissioner Meg Sassaman as far as negative comments.  Well, she is notorious for her bias in Family Court.  Interesting that the Judges haven’t removed her for her lousy representation on the Bench.  But to really measure how bad they are, look at the grade they get – Bonnie Canada-Thurson, the Tirant of King County Courts scores the worse – with an F(.11), compared to the angelic grade of D-(.57) for Sassaman.  Only Judge James Doerty grades close to what Bonnie Blood Thirstin Canada get with his F(.18).  Please your honorless James Doerty, stand up and take a bow.  You deserve it.

Many of the names on this list are well known, and come as no surprise that they are not on the list.  Good luck if you are a non-custodial Parent that gets in front of this lot – it will be your coldest day in hell!

Check it out for your self at http://ratethecourts.com where you can look up your own “Favorite” family destroyer.  I believe there are some good stories that involve some of these members of the court on http://WADVPress.org

Got a story about one of these members of the Court – please, share it with us, we would love to publish it for  you.